“Love is not for the faint of heart.”
-Terrance Real
Breaking The Cycle
Your relationship isn’t working, and you probably know why: you’re stuck in a cycle. You and your partner may find yourselves pursuing and withdrawing, criticizing and defending, blaming, demanding change, avoiding conflict, or falling into patterns where one partner tries to control or dominate while the other gives in or shuts down. I’m here to help you break that cycle.
Changing the Pattern, Not the Partner
Drawing from Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I help couples identify the patterns and behaviors that are hurting their relationship without making either partner the “bad guy.” Together, we work to understand what is happening beneath the conflict, take responsibility for each person’s contribution, and develop new ways of relating to one another.
Restoring Safety, Vulnerability, and Connection
As these patterns begin to change, couples can begin to feel safer being vulnerable, expressing their needs, and allowing themselves to be truly seen and understood. My goal is to help you build the kind of bond where you no longer need me in the room because you’ve learned to turn toward each other with understanding and care, bringing safety, love, and a deeper sense of partnership back into your relationship.
Integrating Other Therapeutic Techniques
While RLT and EFT are the core framework, I also bring in other techniques when they can support your process:
EMDR and Brainspotting can help partners process and release unresolved emotional pain that gets triggered in the relationship.
Sandtray therapy can give couples a creative and symbolic way to explore dynamics and patterns.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Informed Therapy can help each partner notice and work with the parts of themselves that show up in conflict or distance.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps couples express feelings and needs clearly to build empathy and reduce conflict
Inclusive Support for Diverse Relationship Structures
I work with couples across a wide range of relationship structures, including monogamous partnerships, ENM, kink dynamics, and relationship anarchy, and I approach each relationship with openness, curiosity, and a multidimensional lens. I aim to support partners in breaking patterns, deepening connection, communicating more clearly, and navigating challenges with compassion and presence.
Time-Intensive Therapy
Intensive couples therapy offers a spacious and uninterrupted environment for deeper relational healing by moving beyond the constraints of traditional 50-minute sessions, where it can be difficult to build momentum and easy to lose connection just as important conversations begin. With longer sessions, partners have the time and space to slow down in ways that signal safety to the nervous system, both individually and relationally, which is an essential foundation for repair, attunement, and lasting change. This unhurried pace supports partners in staying with their emotions, softening reactivity, and engaging more fully with each other without feeling rushed, shut down, or cut off. Research in the field shows that working in longer or more concentrated blocks can accelerate progress. especially when navigating conflict, attachment injuries, communication difficulties, or the aftermath of trauma—because couples have more uninterrupted time to process, repair, and reconnect.
This extended format also makes it easier to thoughtfully integrate modalities such as attachment-based work, parts work, somatic practices, expressive arts, and experiential exercises that help partners understand themselves and each other on a deeper level. Built-in integration pauses support grounding, reflection, and nervous-system regulation, allowing insights, emotional shifts, and relational repairs to settle more fully. For couples traveling to see me, intensives reduce the need for frequent trips, consolidating the work into fewer visits while maintaining depth and continuity. Overall, intensive couples therapy offers a steady, regulated, and supportive container that helps partners move through entrenched patterns, repair ruptures, and strengthen their connection in a meaningful and sustained way. Intensive couples therapy sessions can range anywhere from 2 to 6 hours. If you’re curious about what length might be the best fit for your needs, I invite you to schedule a consultation so we can explore it together.